Business: 1.
A. many 40 years old, “the feeling of” head do not big, especially the achievements and the promotion of the situation, you want how?
“It is the first”, because the life too onefold, for example, understand that only big achievements or promotion, the hope. Once people found this hope to middle-aged, compared to slim, “do YanFanGan head”. Life is very rich in many places, can discover, not only promoted a thing. Many people to 40 years later, start reading, or photography, or make some friends “, “temperament in chat together some topics of common interest, do some of his happy with yourself happy, the people, so will realize the life rich. Life is no head, as YiWuZhiJing, head, because the road as sole purpose and ignore landscape…
B. some middle-aged discovered do not your favorite job, or have been painfully eternity, has both, what should I do?
The most happy person is doing the work and love from the work gains. But most people, no such luck. I suggested that the job as a person, firstly, work is to make money, money is to let oneself and family happiness, such, although do not like work, also won’t care of work paid — because you, make you earn money, then you go “meet” money “like” you did your “responsibility”, this time, you will feel that you are worth paying. Fear will work doesn’t like, earning money and not spend likes to oneself, and so will feel painful, feel oneself live for oneself, not for others, is very deficient.
2. Dream of crisis
A middle-aged seems to be a dream of age, many people had to admit, the pain in the world to live their own some. To realize the dream of mediocrity, must accept yourself?
To realize the dream, does not represent must live mediocrity. Middle-aged, i.e., whatever means many things should understand, read, forgive yourself, and reconciliation. Every life has its pleasure and pain, or has its own value, middle-aged, should know XiFu, as do delicate delicious home-cooked food – and also is a kind of enjoyment, enjoy peace, peace, enjoying timesong, health and family, to accompany children grow dull, experience is really happy.
B. when we are teachers imbued with a lot of orthodox ideology and values, but I later found out that, the “correct” thought reality often frustrating, how to adjust?
Don’t too sedulous adjustment, if realized, it is good. Life is not a standard answer, middle-aged, know oneself is what person, know oneself of man is what person, know what is his family, and then to yourself, and be kind to others. Don’t force yourself, also with others don’t force yourself to others, this kind of thing on identity, seek common ground while reserving differences, the same values, the more happy, go, instead, as well as with less.
3 social crisis
A. many middle-aged, with a few friends didn’t really feel lonely, and it was abandoned.
Friends this thing is to fate, not too narrowly. There is no can also have no relation, the friend is out. As to feel lonely, abandoned, not how much relationship with friends, some people many friends, but still feel lonely, some friends, but every immersed in the world, is not alone. It is important to establish their own world, then in his world, to find some ShuiDeLai friend, often see a surface, make a phone call, or is the next move, climbing a hill, don’t try so hard, the somebody else will come with you, you tao bottom tao bottom, but others might not be used at the bottom of the tao, takes time.
B. the many people intentionally or unintentionally “useful” and “no”, making more and more utilitarian, especially in work has no friends.
Friends are actually need cost, time, cost and communication cost and it is for this reason that so many people to make friends, because energy utility time and money are limited, hope effective use of resources. Such friends, if the other side is congenial to that would be nice, the problem is often not so skillfully, can be useful to you, certainly also able to friends, so your other useful with his company would some “into”, and the “into” will direct the weakening “friends” its function, friends was used to talk, you have trouble, tell him that he had difficulty, talk to you, give an idea, comfort, said: ZhiXinHua mutual tolerance, even other shortcomings, but once you in and a useful “friends,” the useful “friend, I could not fulfill the above said these” friend “, therefore, no friends.
C) many people more and more stubborn, flexible, and the young man of the gap between more and more deeply, also don’t know to absorb the update, so more and more difficult. How to adjust?
Try to absorb new things, and gradually realize communication. Take time to listen to, again before others, recall retort his young when, with young people communicate, as with young yourself, so, as time went by, the communication is good to yourself, or at least not as “coaches”.
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